Sex Toys That You Can Enjoy Together to Spice Up the Bedroom

So you think the old missionary position is boring and sex has already become routine. If you’re looking for ways to spice up your bedroom game, why not try using sex toys? Sexual playthings are perfect for increasing your pleasure. Plus, they also make sex more intense and exciting.

It’s not true that men who are lacking in the sex department are the only ones who need to use sex toys. In fact, those who truly know how to enjoy their sexuality are the ones who are great at using sex toys. Whether it’s for increasing your partner’s sexual pleasure or just making things for fun during sex, here are some sex toys you can enjoy together.

Why You Should Try Sex Toys

One of the most common reasons why couples experiment with various sex toys is that these gadgets can definitely help enhance sexual pleasure. Although most people use sexual playthings that are designed to increase women’s sexual pleasure, there are also many sex toys that are designed to intensify the sexual pleasure of men.

Studies have shown, for instance, that men who often use vibrators either for themselves, their partner, or for both of them, tend to have higher scores on sexual desire and satisfaction, as well as on erectile function and orgasm function, as compared to men who never used a vibrator.

Other studies have also revealed that there are long-term benefits for couples who use sex toys as a tool to discover new ways of being intimate with each other.  In general, couples who play with bedroom gadgets tend to do better in terms of relationship satisfaction, as well as maintaining sexual desire and passion for each other.

Vibrators for Increased Stimulation

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For most women, it’s easier to achieve an orgasm when there’s clitoral stimulation. That’s why you’ll find a lot of vibrators that are specifically designed to stimulate the clitoris. If you’re shopping for a vibrator for the first time, you’ll have lots of fun choosing from the various models.

If you want to be discreet, or you’re looking for a vibrator that your partner can bring wherever she goes, there are even clitoral vibrators that are designed as wearable jewelry. Other clitoral vibrators are designed to be pressed against the clitoris during sex, while there are also those that can be inserted into the vagina for added G-spot stimulation.

What’s great about these dual-purpose vibrators is that you can also benefit from the increased sexual stimulation. When you’ve got a G-spot vibrator inserted into your partner’s vagina while you’re having penetrative sex, the enhanced sensations will also intensify your sexual pleasure and make your orgasm more intense.

Some hand-held vibrators are even waterproof, so you can use them whenever you feel like having shower sex. If your partner enjoys masturbating while soaking in the bathtub, a waterproof vibrator would be an excellent gift.

Vibrating cock rings and intimate massagers are also great additions to your sex toys collection. Although cock rings are primarily designed to intensify male sexual pleasure, you can also use it to press against your partner’s clitoris so that both of you can benefit from the added sensations.

Anal Sex Toys to Double the Fun

For first-timers, anal sex can be quite intimidating. But once you try it, you just might get addicted. For one, the butt area is quite rich in nerve endings, which means that anal stimulation can lead to intense sensations.

For this reason, many people immensely enjoy having anal sex. What’s great about using anal sex toys is that these sexual playthings can do wonders for both you and your partner.

With the use of an anal sex toy, you can easily reach your partner’s G-spot from behind, or you can also aim for your P-spot. Stimulating your prostate can reward you with an extremely intense orgasm.

If you’re a beginner and you’re not used to having a toy inserted into your anus yet, you can use a vibrator to stimulate the outside of your anus. When you’re ready to discover the fun of anal sex, you can use beginner beads.

These beads usually start small and grow bigger in diameter. What’s nice about beginner beads is that you can control the level of penetration. And when you’re about to orgasm, try pulling the beads out slowly. The added sensations will definitely make your orgasm more intense.

If you find anal beads challenging to use, you can try an anal bead stick. Some models also have a vibrator function, so you can just imagine how much sexual stimulation these toys can give you.

There are also anal sex starter kits that both you and your partner can use. Some kits contain multi-speed vibrating probes or bullet vibrators, allowing you to explore different sensations.

Toys for When You Feel Naughty

If you have ever fantasized about making your partner orgasm in public, there are many remote-controlled sex toys that can make your fantasy an exciting reality. Have your partner wear a vibrating panty and play with the remote control to make her feel different sensations.

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If you feel like adding an element of mystery into your sexual play, try using a blindfold and restraints set. Being blindfolded can increase the sense of anticipation and excitement. Plus, your sense of touch becomes heightened, which means any sensation you experience feels more intense.

Don’t Forget to Lube Up

When you’re using sex toys, it’s always a good idea to lube up, especially if you’re using toys for anal sex. Unlike a woman’s vagina, there’s no natural lubricant in the anus. Using a lubricant will make it easier for you to use anal sex toys more smoothly.

For silicone-based toys, make sure you use a water-based lubricant. And one quick tip. When you’re shopping for your next sex toy, go ahead and buy a sex toy cleaner as well. You’re basically using your toy on your most intimate parts, so it’s a good idea to keep your sexual plaything clean.

What to Know About Swingers Clubs

For couples who are starting to feel like sex has become routine and boring, swinging can be a great way to bring fun and excitement back into your sex life. Not only does swinging give you an opportunity to explore your sexuality, but it’s also an excellent way to enrich your sexual experience.

Swinger clubs or adult lifestyle clubs, as they are sometimes called, are a good way to meet and sexually interact with other swinger couples. If you and your partner are thinking about joining a swingers club, here are some things you should keep in mind.

Do Some Research

Most swinger clubs don’t advertise, but you can find a lot of information about swinger clubs through the internet. If you haven’t tried going to a swinger club yet, it’s best to do some research first so you’ll know what to expect.

Before you apply for membership at a swinger club, do some comparison first. Take a look at the club’s rules, policies, as well as membership requirements and cost. For instance, some clubs allow orgies and even provide orgy beds, while others don’t. Choose the swinger club that you’re most comfortable with.

If you’re single, it’s best to find out if the swinger club you’re planning to go to accommodates single people. Some swinger clubs accept single guests on certain days only. Other clubs, on the one hand, are exclusive for couples only.

Be on the Same Page

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Before you sign up for a swinger club membership, make sure you and your partner are on the same page. It’s not just about agreeing to have sex with whoever you’ll meet at the club.

You also need to talk about whatever rules or limits you may want to set for yourself such as not engaging in oral sex. Other swinger couples have rules about not having multiple sex partners. Whatever rules you come up with will depend on you and your partner. The important thing is to be on the same page.

You may also want to agree on a certain signal, so you can let each other know if you’re feeling uncomfortable or if there’s a problem. When you’re at a swinger club, you’re basically having sex with a stranger and unexpected things can happen.

Get the Lay of the Land

If it’s your first time swinging or you’re trying out a swinger club for the first time, try to refrain from having sex with the first person you meet. Get the lay of the land and check out the situation first.

Watch first and observe how the other swinger couples are, then you can decide if you really want to jump in on the action. Also, not everyone who goes to a swinger club actually wants to have sex. There are also those who just want to watch others get down and dirty without taking part in the action themselves.

Even if it’s a sex party, you don’t have to force yourself to have sex with the first couple you meet if you’re not comfortable with them or you don’t like them. If you and your partner do find a couple that you’d like to swing with, try to talk to them first. Set expectations so that you’re all on the same page.

Some clubs have rules like dress codes and wristband policies. Other clubs have defined play areas, and they usually don’t allow masturbation or nudity outside the play area. Most swinger clubs prohibit the use of smartphones in the premises, as well as taking pictures or videos.

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask

Whether you’re simply asking about the club’s rules or you’re asking a couple if they would like to swap with you and your partner, don’t be shy to ask. Swingers are usually very approachable, and you also need to socialize when you’re at a sex party.

If you and your partner are attending a swinger club for the first time and you want to experiment, you can ask other swinger couples to guide you. Swinging can be an intimidating experience, especially for those who are trying it out for the first time. The good news is that many swinger couples would be happy to help you through it.

Make Sure You’re Protected

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Most swinger clubs provide condoms, but it’s always a good idea to bring your own protection. Again, you’re going to be engaging in sex with people you don’t know and you can’t be sure if they have any history of STDs. Just to be safe, keep yourself protected.

Other clubs encourage their patrons to bring their own sex toys. If you enjoy using sex toys, it’s best to bring your own. That way, you’re sure that your toy is working, clean and free of STD-causing pathogens, and comfortable for you to use.

What to Avoid When You’re at a Swinger Club

You’re probably at a swinger club because you want some exciting sexual action. That being said, remember that your goal at the sex party is to get hot and steamy. Hence, avoid drinking too much alcohol. You definitely wouldn’t want a whiskey dick when you’re at a swinger club.

Avoid closed curtains and doors. Although it’s a sex party, some people still want to enjoy the act of sex in private. If the door is closed, don’t interrupt even if you know the couple inside. Even open doors don’t necessarily mean that whoever is having sex inside is inviting you to join.

Don’t force it when someone says no. No matter how wild the party is, not everyone there would want to have sex with you, just like how you wouldn’t want to have sex with some of the people there.

If your invitation to have sex is declined, respect that. In the same manner, you should also politely decline if someone you’re not comfortable with wants to have sex with you. Just because it’s a sex party, it doesn’t mean that mutual consent is no longer necessary. On the contrary, consent is a crucial matter when you’re at a swinger club.

Do Open Relationships Really Work?

If you’re in a committed relationship, will you mind if your partner had sex with someone else? Many people would say that they wouldn’t like it if their partner got intimate with someone else. But there are also those who are very much comfortable with having an open relationship.

For many who are wondering what it’s like to be in an open relationship, the first thing they want to know is if it can actually work. Whichever type of open relationship you’re going to have, how it will work will really depend on you and your partner. To find out if an open relationship would work for you, continue reading.

Open Relationships Come in Various Forms

People normally conceive of open relationships as having a non-monogamous relationship. Times have evolved, however, and so have our personal relationships. There are now different types of non-monogamous relationships, and experts have classified open relationships into different categories.

When you have a sexually exclusive relationship with your partner, that’s called monogamy. It’s classical if you both have had no other sexual partners previously, and you remain faithful to your partner your whole life. Serial monogamy, on the one hand, is defined as being in a series of a monogamous relationship.

In contrast, non-monogamous relationships vary in terms of the degree of sexual openness, structure, roles, honesty, and emotional connection. In addition, some non-monogamous couples come up with rules that make their open relationship quite unique.

Polygamy, as practiced in certain religions and cultures, is the most common form of non-monogamous relationships. It’s called polygyny if the husband is married to multiple wives who are sexually exclusive with him. Polyandry, wherein a woman is married to multiple husbands, is far less common than polygyny.

Consensual non-monogamous relationships or open relationships generally refer to any relationship wherein the primary couple are open to having sexual relations with others. Polyamory, monogamish, and swinging are all common examples of open relationships.

2 women getting busy with 1 man

Currently, swinging is the most popular and diverse type of open relationship. Committed couples basically consensually exchange partners just for the main purpose of engaging in sex.

Monogamish couples, on the one hand, have stricter rules when it comes to sexual contact outside the relationship. Although the couple stays committed with each other, they both allow the other to have sexual relations with someone else, albeit to a limited degree.

In a monogamish relationship, the couple may commit to a certain rule like having sex with a third party only once a month. Some monogamish couples have rules about kissing, oral sex, and time limitations.

Polyamory, on the one hand, may appear to be the most liberated type of open relationship. Couples in a polyamorous relationship engage in multiple romantic and sexual relationships simultaneously.

What Makes Open Relationships Work?

If you have never tried an open relationship in the past, you may wonder how these non-monogamous couples make it work. Some people just can’t get their mind wrapped around the idea of their partner being in bed with someone else. And that’s actually one of the biggest factors that can make or break an open relationship.

When you’re in a non-monogamous relationship, no matter what form it is, it’s not just about being aware that your partner is having sex with someone else. It’s all about accepting that fact and being okay with it without any jealous or insecure feelings.

When a partner starts to feel jealous or insecure, that’s when an open relationship starts to crumble. This is why honesty and transparency are very important for couples in an open relationship.

Non-monogamous relationship couples who make it actually work usually establish how much they’re going to share with each other. There are those who agree that they will be open and honest about everything, sharing all details about their sexual interactions outside the relationship.

There’s really no set standard on how much you’re going to share with your partner about your other sexual relations when you’re in an open relationship. The key is to establish and agree on the level of honesty and transparency that you expect from each other.

If you expect your partner to tell you about everything that happened with her latest one-night stand, but you yourself aren’t willing to tell her how sexually excited you were when you were with your latest sexual partner, then that could put a strain on your relationship.

One thing that you and your partner also need to decide on before you start an open relationship is the kind of arrangement that you will have. You have a lot of options, and you can decide on the structure of your relationship and what kind of rules you will both commit to. The important thing is for both of you to agree on such structure and rules.

You don’t have to stay committed to one form of open relationship, either. If you and your partner both agree to it, you can switch from a swinging relationship to a monogamish or even a polyamorous relationship. It really depends on how sexually open you both are, and your level of comfort in exploring these types of non-monogamous relationships.

Why Open Relationships Sometimes Fail

As with any other relationship, how strong an open relationship stays really depends on the strength of the connection between the primary couple. Anything that breaks that emotional and sexual connection can cause an open relationship to fail.

jealous woman staring at couple

Jealousy is by far the most common reason why couples in an open relationship break up. When you’re swinging and you notice that your partner seems to be more satisfied when she’s having sex with your friend, sometimes you can’t help but feel jealous. That’s natural, too, since jealousy is a very human emotion.

Feelings of insecurities often accompany jealousy. When you start comparing yourself with your partner’s latest playmate, that can trigger feelings of insecurity, especially if you think the other person is better at sex than you.

If you do want your open relationship to last, you both need to protect the trust that you have for each other. Even if you both consent to the other having sexual relations with someone else, it’s still cheating if you’re not staying faithful to the rules that you have established for your open relationship.

How Old is Too Old to Have Sex?

By the time you reach your 70th birthday, do you think you’ll still be having sex? It’s not as if there’s a switch for turning your sex drive off. But many people seem to find the thought of elderly sex funny, thinking that you’re not supposed to engage in sex anymore when you’re already old.

But does sex really have an age limit? If so, at what age should you stop having sex? The truth is that elderly people do still engage in sex, and there’s no age limit when it comes to enjoying your sexuality. However, it won’t be the same as when you were still younger. Here’s what you should know about elderly sex.

Sexuality in Old Age

Elderly people may seem too old to do the deed, but they do still enjoy sex and intimacy. A healthy sexuality is an important component of one’s well-being, and elderly people who still get to enjoy intimate relations tend to have a healthier sense of well-being than those who don’t have intimate relationships.

Although one’s sex drive typically declines as one gets older, it doesn’t mean that elderly people stop being interested in sex. For instance, the results of the 2018 National Poll on Healthy Aging indicate that as many as 50% of men aged 65-80 years old are still very much interested in sex.

Studies also indicate that elderly people tend to put more value on intimacy rather on the physical act of sex. Kissing, hugging, cuddling, and even just holding hands are as important as actually engaging in sex, and such intimate activities can also be a source of sexual satisfaction.

Factors That Can Affect Sexual Enjoyment Among the Elderly

erectile dysfunction on mature man

For elderly men, low libido and erectile dysfunction are the top two factors that can prevent them from enjoying sex. A low sex drive is a common thing among elderly men, and part of it is due to reduced testosterone production. Erectile dysfunction, on the one hand, may be the result of various medical and psychological factors.

Men who are already in their 60s or older tend to suffer from health conditions that affect penile blood flow and erectile function, such as cardiovascular diseases and diabetes. In the United States, more than 23 million elderly adults aged 65 years and older are suffering from diabetes. Elderly men who have diabetes have a higher tendency to become impotent.

For older men, diabetes and heart diseases are not the only health factors that can prevent them from fully enjoying their sexuality. Arthritis, gout, joint pain, and back pain are also common health conditions that can limit one’s flexibility and mobility, which means that you won’t be able to move as much as you’d like to during sex.

Elderly men also tend to have a slower sexual response time. If you used to be able to achieve instant hard-ons, as you grow older, it may take your body a little bit longer for you to achieve an erection. You may also need more sexual stimulation before you get a hard-on.

In addition, elderly men also tend to experience weaker erections. And because their pelvic floor muscles are no longer as strong as when they were younger, their orgasm and ejaculation do not feel as intense or strong.

Age-related changes that influence one’s sexual enjoyment are also common among elderly women. Whereas erectile dysfunction is one of the biggest sexual problems for elderly men, older women tend to have problems with their vaginal lubrication.

Vaginal dryness is a common problem even among pre-menopausal women. The tissues that line the vagina may become fragile and dry due to decreased circulating estrogen levels, which is typical during and after menopause.

When the vaginal lining is dry, sexual intercourse can result in irritation, chafing, and even bleeding. This can make sex extremely uncomfortable and painful, which would explain why many women suffering from vaginal dryness often want to avoid having sex altogether.

Just like elderly men, it may also take longer for older women to respond to sexual stimulation. This means that it may take longer, or more sexual stimulation is needed before an older woman’s natural vaginal lubrication kicks in.

And just like the way older men tend to experience weaker erections, older women may not have as much vaginal lubrication as they used to have. Fortunately, this can be easily remedied by using a vaginal lubricant.

Tips for Better Sex When You’re Older

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Even with so many factors that can negatively impact your sexual performance, you don’t have to stop engaging in sex when you’re already in your senior years. However, you may need a little help so as to fully enjoy a healthy sex life.

For elderly women, it’s not embarrassing to use a vaginal lubricant. Not only will it help increase your sexual pleasure, but it can also protect you from painful sex due to vaginal dryness.  There are also products available to aid women suffering from menopause-related vaginal dryness.

Because our bodies tend to respond more slowly as we get older, it makes a lot of sense to focus and spend more time on foreplay. Take your time. You don’t have to force yourself to get a hard-on or for your partner to become wet.

Rushing things can just cause pressure, and the more pressured and tense you get, the more difficult it is for you to achieve an erection or for your partner to become sexually excited.

Focusing more on foreplay can also help you and your partner become more intimate. Plus, it can also help you broaden your definition of satisfying sex. For many elderly couples, having an orgasm is no longer the goal of sex. Rather, it’s all about intimacy.

For elderly men who really want to be able to engage in penetrative sex, there are also several options to help them achieve stronger erections. Prescription medications like sildenafil may not always be accessible, but herbal alternatives like sex enhancement supplements are plenty and readily available.

Tongkat Ali, for instance, is proven to be safe for elderly men, especially for those who are suffering from late-onset hypogonadism, which is a condition that causes your body to produce very little amounts of testosterone. Not only is Tongkat Ali proven effective in increasing testosterone production, but it’s also great for enhancing your erectile function.

Dirty Talk Without Being Weird

Dirty talk can either make sex hotter and more exciting or downright awkward and embarrassing. Some people can make it sound so natural, while others sound silly, ridiculous, and even creepy.

Sex experts say that communication is important when you’re having sex. And part of that is talking to your partner about what you want and what feels good for you, as well as asking what your partner wants. If you don’t want to sound weird when you’re talking dirty during sex, here are six great tips for you.

#1 Do It Only If You’re Comfortable with It

The fact is that not everyone finds dirty talk comfortable or sexually exciting. If you’re comfortable talking dirty during sex, then, by all means, do it. If you feel awkward about describing in graphic details what you want to do to your partner, then maybe you should do that when you feel more confident about saying such things.

You should also consider if your partner is comfortable with graphic dirty talk. If you feel that words like pussy, balls, and dick make your partner freeze or cringe, then don’t force it.

Trying to talk dirty to a partner who’s uncomfortable with it will just make sex awkward and unenjoyable. This also means that you should be aware of and sensitive to your partner’s reaction when you talk dirty.

#2 Try Something Simple

If you’re not yet comfortable about talking dirty during sex, you don’t have to force yourself to use what other people may consider as filthy words. You can just keep it simple and say “that feels good” or “that’s hot.”

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The key is to verbalize what you’re feeling and telling your partner what you want or what you’re about to do. Detailed and graphic descriptions can make dirty talk really erotic. However, that’s only true if both you and your partner feel comfortable talking dirty during sex.

If you’re both not yet used to talking dirty, you can practice using simple words and phrases like “faster”, “that’s it”, or “I’m almost there.” As you become more confident about your dirty talk and as your comfort level increases, your dirty talk will just naturally improve.

#3 Choose Your Words

Dirty talk is supposed to help you and your partner build a stronger sexual connection with each other, not drive you apart. That being said, your choice of words matters a lot. Just like when you’re having a conversation with your partner, certain words can trigger a negative reaction.

It’s better to use words that your partner also feels comfortable using. If your partner prefers dick over cock or vagina over pussy, then try using those preferred words. And make sure you don’t go back and forth, as that can lead to confusion and ruin the mood if your partner strongly dislikes certain words that you’re using.

You wouldn’t want your partner to feel insulted with your dirty talk so it might be best to ask your partner if there are certain words you should avoid. If your partner doesn’t appreciate words like daddy and bitch, then just avoid using them.

Whether you’re asking your partner what she likes you to do for her or you’re telling your partner what exactly you’re going to do to make her climax, your tone also matters. Just make sure you don’t sound too clinical. Instead of saying cunnilingus, describe in detail exactly how you’re going to give her oral sex.         

#4 Be Sincere

Even if it consists mostly of taboo words, dirty talk is still a form of communication. And effective communication requires sincerity. When you talk dirty, say what you really feel. Tell your partner what you really want. And if you say you’re going to do something to please your partner, actually do it.

If you really like what your partner is doing to please you, then say so. And go into details when you talk about what you really like with what your partner is doing. On the other hand, if what your partner is doing doesn’t really float your boat, don’t say that you like it. Instead, say what you would rather your partner do.

#5 Don’t Be Afraid to Give and Receive Feedback

Sex is all about mutually pleasing each other. And you won’t know that your partner is pleased with your performance unless she tells you she’s satisfied. Nor will your partner know how pleased you are with her performance unless you give her feedback.

Your partner may tell you that you’re being too forceful when you’re stimulating her clitoris. That kind of feedback can help you adjust so that you can please your partner better. In the same way, you can also give your partner constructive feedback so she’ll know how she can excite and please you more.

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Giving each other positive reinforcement is also a great way to affirm your sexual connection. And that can be part of your dirty talk, too. When you tell your partner you like the way she strokes your penis, or when your partner tells you she likes the way you play with her clitoris, that can make sex more exciting and fulfilling.

Such positive reinforcements during sex not only make you more aware of how you can increase your sexual pleasure, but it also helps build your confidence about your sexual performance.

#6 Location and Timing Also Matter

What’s nice about dirty talk is that it shows how intimate you are with your partner. It’s a language that only the two of you share, making it an intricate part of your sexual connection with each other. For this reason, couples usually keep their dirty talk private.

But there are also times when whispered dirty talk can suddenly fire up your sex drive and make you so excited that you can’t wait to drag your partner into the bedroom. This doesn’t mean, though, that you can just talk dirty to your partner anytime or anywhere you feel like it unless your partner is up for it.

Best Ways to Time Your Orgasms with Your Partner

Most couples would agree that sex is most enjoyable when you climax together. Although this is something that makes sex so fulfilling, unfortunately, not all couples are able to achieve this each time they have sex.

Being able to achieve a shared orgasm is a worthy relationship goal, as long as you both know that it’s not the ultimate goal whenever you have sex. Here are great tips for couples who want to enjoy achieving simultaneous orgasms.

The Benefits of Climaxing Together

It’s common knowledge that women often experience difficulties achieving an orgasm during sex, and that men usually climax earlier than their partner. What experts refer to as the orgasm gap simply means that in heterosexual relationships, women typically have fewer orgasms than their male partner.

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When you climax simultaneously with your partner, not only does it help bridge the orgasm gap in your relationship, but it also makes you more sexually connected with each other. The satisfaction and fulfillment that sex brings after you climax together are far more intense than when you orgasm separately.

One of the best benefits that you can enjoy when you orgasm at the same time with your partner is that your sexual bonding becomes stronger which, in turn, makes for a stronger and more satisfying relationship.

Tips for Achieving Orgasm Together

No matter how satisfying it is to climax at the same time with your partner, the sad truth is that many couples climax separately most of the time. If you find it difficult to time your orgasm so that you can climax together with your partner, here are 7 great tips for you.

#1 Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

Whether you’re a man or a woman, Kegel exercises will definitely help you gain control of your orgasm. Kegels will enable you to tone your pelvic floor muscles, as well as strengthen them.

Women with well-toned pelvic floor muscles tend to climax more quickly and easily, while men with strong pelvic floor muscles are able to control the timing of their ejaculation. For both sexes, having strong and toned pelvic floor muscles results in stronger and more intense orgasms.

#2 Lubricate When You Need To

For women, a lack of vaginal lubrication not only makes it difficult for you to achieve an orgasm, but it can also make sex quite painful. And painful sex is definitely unsatisfying. Using a vaginal lubricant during sex isn’t an embarrassing thing.

When you’re worried about not being wet enough, such concerns can distract you and prevent you from fully enjoying sex with your partner. What’s worse is that it can make stressed and anxious, and that can certainly dampen your libido, as well as make it more difficult for you to climax.

#3 Slow Down

Depending on which study you refer to, 75%-96% of men climax almost every time they engage in sex, as compared to only less than 30% of women. Studies also indicate that men tend to orgasm much more quickly than their female partner. For couples who want to be able to enjoy climaxing together, it makes sense for the male partner to slow down during sex.

One way to do so is by trying the stop-start technique, which is a technique that many sex therapists use to help men control and delay their ejaculation during sex. The key is to stop all sexual stimulation when the male partner is about to orgasm, and then to continue having sex again when the urge to ejaculate passes.

What’s great about the stop-start technique is that it helps men achieve better control over the timing of their ejaculation. Not only will you be able to better time your orgasm so that you can climax together with your partner, but it will also help build your sexual stamina and enable you to have sex with your partner for a longer period.

#4 Hit the Right Spot

Stimulating the G-spot at the right angle and using the right amount of pressure is one way to ensure that your partner will orgasm quickly. Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who are still not sure where the sweet spot is, and what’s worse is that not all men know how to hit the right spot.

Finding your partner’s G-spot is actually a great sexual exercise and an excellent way for the two of you to strengthen your sexual connection. When you’re trying to stimulate your partner’s G-spot, don’t be shy to ask her if you’re hitting the right spot and if you’re applying the right amount of pressure.

#5 Focus on Her Clitoris


A lot of women find it easier to climax when their clitoris is stimulated. Clitoral masturbation is one way for you to help your partner climax. If you’re fond of rear-entry sex positions, make sure you pay extra attention to your partner’s clitoris to help her climax faster.

Of the various types of female orgasms, a clitoral orgasm is actually the most easily achieved. When you feel you’re about to ejaculate already, stimulate your partner’s clitoris to help her climax together with you.

#6 Always Communicate

Although sex is mainly a physical activity, it doesn’t mean that you should just focus on what you’re doing and the sensations you’re feeling while you’re having sex. In fact, open communication with your partner during sex can make the sexual act more enjoyable and fulfilling.

It’s not just about telling your partner what feels good during sex. It’s also about communicating to your partner how far or close you are to achieving an orgasm, and telling your partner to slow down or go faster so you can both climax at the same time. If your goal is to enjoy a shared orgasm, it can be achieved more easily when you communicate during sex.

#7 Don’t Pressure Yourself

Although it’s always nice when you can climax together with your partner, you don’t need to pressure yourself about it. The more you force yourself, the stronger the pressure becomes, and that can ruin the mood and make sex less satisfying.

You also need to remember that climaxing together shouldn’t be the end goal when you’re having sex, no matter how enjoyable it is when you orgasm together. Sex is about being intimate with each other, whether you climax separately or together.

How Often Should You Be Having Sex During Your Pregnancy?

For couples, it’s only natural to want to have sex frequently when you are trying to get pregnant. But what if you are already in the family way? A lot of couples are still apprehensive about sex during pregnancy. The good news is that it is generally safe.

There’s really no fixed answer when it comes to how frequent you should be having sex during pregnancy, considering that each pregnancy is different. If you are interested in pregnancy sex and are wondering how safe it is, continue reading.

Libido Changes During Pregnancy

You may find that your sex drive is on a roller coaster when you’re pregnant. During the first trimester, a reduction in libido is a common occurrence, although not all pregnant women suffer from a diminished sex drive.

Studies indicate that as many as more than 50% of pregnant women experience diminished desire for sex during the first trimester. That’s usually the time when many pregnant women feel too nauseated or exhausted to even think about sex. Your libido may also be affected as you emotionally and physically adjust to your condition.

Don’t be too affected if you find yourself uninterested at all in sex during your first trimester. Your body is going through a lot of changes, and it’s normal for your libido to be affected. For instance, you’re producing more prolactin, which is a hormone that promotes lactation but also inhibits sexual behavior.

A lot of women, however, find the second trimester a more comfortable time to engage in sex. By this time, you may no longer be suffering from morning sickness and fatigue, making you more receptive to sex.

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In addition, during the second trimester, a pregnant woman’s vagina and clitoris tend to be more engorged with blood due to the increased blood flow to the genitals. A lot of women actually experience increased sexual pleasure during the second trimester, and many experience multiple orgasms during this period.

Even during the third trimester, many couples still continue to enjoy sex. If your pregnancy is normal, there’s no reason why you should stop having sex with your partner even when you’re almost due.

The only consideration at this time is whether sex will be comfortable for you, so you and your partner may need to be extra creative and adventurous in exploring sex positions. Oral sex is also a great option when you’re already in your third trimester.

Is Sex During Pregnancy Safe?

In general, engaging in sex while you’re pregnant won’t cause harm to your baby. That’s because your baby is protected by your uterine muscles, as well as by the amniotic fluid that surrounds the developing fetus.

If you’re worried that pregnancy sex may cause you to have a miscarriage, the chances of that happening are actually very low, especially if your pregnancy is a normal one. However, if you’re suffering from certain complications such as placenta problems, you may want to ask your doctor first if it’s alright for you to engage in pregnancy sex.

When to Avoid Pregnancy Sex

There are cases when medical professionals advise against sex during pregnancy. If you have experienced preterm labor in the past, or if you have a history of premature birth, your doctor may recommend that you avoid pregnancy sex. The same goes if you’re suffering from unexplained vaginal bleeding or if your amniotic fluid is leaking.

Cervical incompetence, a condition wherein a woman’s cervix opens up prematurely, is another condition that can prevent you from engaging in pregnancy sex. If you’re suffering from placenta previa such as when your placenta is covering your cervical opening, your doctor may also advise that you refrain from having sex during your pregnancy.

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During high-risk pregnancies, some doctors allow sex as long as there’s no penetration. There are also instances when doctors allow sexual penetration, as long as a condom is used. Women with high-risk pregnancies are often told to avoid achieving an orgasm, as this may cause premature contractions.

If you suspect that your partner may have an STD, or if your partner had a sexually transmitted infection in the past, you may want to avoid having sex altogether. Better yet, have your partner undergo an STD examination. Certain STDs can be passed on to your developing baby, so you may want to use a condom if you do engage in pregnancy sex.

How to Maintain Intimacy During Pregnancy

Even if it’s a high-risk pregnancy, it shouldn’t stop you from being intimate with your partner. If you don’t want your passion for each other to fade while your tummy is growing bigger and bigger, there are many ways for you to maintain intimate relations with your partner.

Oral sex, for one, is an excellent way of being intimate with your partner during your pregnancy. There’s no limit as to how often you can do it, even when you’re already almost due. Just remind your partner not to blow air into your vagina, as this can cause an air embolism, which can be dangerous for your pregnancy.

One thing that’s really nice about pregnancy sex is that you get to explore various sex positions that you may not have tried before your pregnancy. Yes, your growing girth may make conventional missionary sex uncomfortable for you, but it’s a great excuse for you and your partner to try various rear-entry or side-by-side positions.

If your doctor advises you to avoid penetrative sex altogether, ask your doctor if foreplay is alright. And if it is, ask whether it’s safe for you to orgasm or not. If your healthcare provider gives the go signal, then there’s no reason why you and your partner shouldn’t enjoy mutual masturbation.

If your pregnancy happens to be extremely high-risk, holding hands, kissing, hugging, and cuddling are still great ways to stay intimate with your partner. An intimate massage is also a great option, and you can also explore various ways to please your partner as he masturbates.

Do I Have A Sex Addiction?

When you can no longer manage or control your sexual behavior, despite the fact that you’re aware of possible negative consequences, then you may already be suffering from an addiction to sex.

There are actually different types of sex addiction, and any one of them can impact your relationships, your daily life, and even your work. Being addicted to sex is not a light matter as it can cause harm to you and the people around you. If you’re wondering how you can tell if you have a sex addiction, read on.


As with any addiction, sex addiction is also characterized by a marked lack of control, specifically over one’s sexual behavior. Sex addiction is sometimes referred to as hypersexuality, sexual dependency, or compulsive sexual behavior.

The sex drive of a sexually addicted person is usually abnormally intense, causing the person to be obsessed with sex. A sexually addicted person’s thoughts are typically dominated by fantasies of sexual activities, and the sexual urges can be so uncontrollable that they affect the person’s daily activities and social interactions.

If you have a sex addiction, you shouldn’t be embarrassed to seek treatment. Without treatment, your addiction to sex can only get worse. More than ten million Americans are actually suffering from sex addiction, and many have gotten over their addiction through treatment.

Behaviors Associated with Sex Addiction

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An addiction to sex can come in different forms, such as compulsive masturbation, excessive use of pornography, voyeurism, excessive sexual fantasies, and other excessive sexual pursuits. Even having multiple affairs or sexual partners may also be considered a form of sex addiction.

When you’re addicted to sex, you may suffer from an inability to control your sexual urges. This does not mean, however, that engaging in your preferred sexual activity brings you satisfaction. Oftentimes, a sexually addicted person feels detached when engaging in sex, or the sexual act may induce feelings of shame and guilt.

You may also feel obsessed about starting new romances or being in love, which can then lead to a string of sexual partners and multiple affairs. These relationships, however, tend to be unsatisfying.

In most cases, a person who’s addicted to sex tends to spend excessive energy and time to obtain sex, engage in sexual activities, or recover from sexual activities. A sexually addicted person may be aware that his or her sexual urges are already uncontrollable, and that acting on those urges can cause social, financial, medical, and even legal consequences.

Despite being aware of such consequences, it’s not easy for a sexually addicted person to stop. Hence, when you’re sexually addicted, you tend to prioritize your sexual pursuits over your social and recreational activities.

You may also experience recurrent failure in resisting the urge to engage in extreme sexual acts. When the addiction to sex involves behaviors such as voyeurism or exhibitionism, not being able to resist the urge to engage in such activities can easily lead to legal and criminal consequences.

Risk-taking is also associated with sexual addiction, wherein a sexually addicted person tends to engage in extremely risky activities, despite being aware of possible consequences such as sexually transmitted diseases, emotional consequences, physical injury, and even legal consequences.

Are You Addicted to Sex?

It’s never easy to admit that you’re addicted to something, whether the object of your addiction is alcohol, drugs, or sex. If you have been experiencing uncontrollable sexual urges, here are some signs you should look out for.

If you feel that you have no control over your sexual urges, or that you are powerless to resist when the urge hits you, that could already be a sign of sex addiction. When your sexual acts bring no satisfaction but instead cause feelings of embarrassment, shame, and even self-loathing, that’s another possible sign of sex addiction.

If you feel that your life has become unmanageable because of your sexual choices, or when you’re managing your daily activities to accommodate your sexual activities, or if sex has become almost a ritual that you must do no matter what, you should start thinking about seeking treatment for sex addiction.

Can You Get Treatment for Sex Addiction?

Before you can get treatment for sex addiction, your doctor will first determine if you’re just suffering from a high sex drive or if it’s a real addiction to sex. There are two key factors that healthcare professionals use to distinguish between the two.

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When you consistently fail to control your sexual urges or sexual behavior, and you continue to engage in such despite being aware of the harm that such urges or behavior cause you and the people around you, your healthcare provider will most likely advise you to begin treatment for sex addiction.

If you’re not ready to seek medical or psychiatric treatment for sex addiction, you may opt to join self-help organizations like Sexual Compulsives Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous. Organizations like these offer 12-step programs that aim to help you manage your addiction to sex.

There are also residential treatment or in-patient programs available for people with sex addiction, although facilities that offer such programs usually cater to patients with other types of addictions as well. Residential treatment programs require you to live at the facility while receiving treatment from specialized therapists.

Cognitive behavioral therapy is also widely used in the treatment of sex addiction. This type of therapy basically targets your sexual behavior and helps you to change your sexual behavior through the use of various techniques.

Other types of therapies that mental health professionals use to treat sex addiction include individual therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and dialectical-behavioral therapy. You may also be advised to undergo group therapy, couple’s counseling, or marriage counseling.

At present, there are no medications that are approved for the treatment of sex addiction. However, if you are also suffering from anxiety or depression, as sex addiction is usually accompanied by such mental health issues, your healthcare provider may prescribe certain medications to help relieve your anxiety or depression.

How Much Does Sildenafil Cost Per Pill?

One of the reasons why many men with erectile dysfunction are hesitant about using Viagra is that the little blue pill is quite pricey. Even if you really want to be able to get an erection that’s sufficiently hard for you to enjoy sex again, having to pay $50 or more just for one pill can dampen your mood for sex.

The fact that generic sildenafil is significantly cheaper than Viagra is a common reason why men with erectile dysfunction prefer generic sildenafil over the branded version. Continue reading to find out how much sildenafil would cost you.


Sildenafil citrate is the active ingredient that’s found in both generic sildenafil and Viagra. For the treatment of erectile dysfunction, generic sildenafil is available either as a pill, oral suspension, or injection, but Viagra is available only in pill form. The dosages available are 25, 50, and 100 milligrams, just like Viagra.

For the treatment of pulmonary arterial hypertension, on the one hand, you can get a prescription for generic sildenafil 20 milligrams. Since the dosage of Viagra is higher, it’s not usually prescribed for pulmonary arterial hypertension.

Sildenafil belongs to a class of medication called cGMP-specific PDE5 inhibitors. Other medications for erectile dysfunction like tadalafil also belong to the same group. These drugs basically work by inhibiting PDE5 or phosphodiesterase-5 enzymes that specifically break down cGMP.

By preventing cGMP from being broken down, PDE5 inhibitors like sildenafil enable you to have levels of cGMP in your penile tissues high enough to cause smooth muscle relaxation. Your penile arteries then dilate when your penile smooth muscles are relaxed, causing an inflow of blood to your erectile tissues.

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Because sildenafil has various side effects such as reduced blood pressure, doctors usually recommend that you take only one pill a day, and only on days when you’re planning to engage in sexual activities. Sildenafil is typically completely metabolized after a few hours, so if you take a pill, you’ll start to feel that its effects are diminishing after four hours or so.

The fact that sildenafil does not have any lasting or long-term effects is one of its disadvantages. For men who are looking to experience permanent improvements in their erectile function, Viagra and generic sildenafil can’t give you that.

Comparing Sildenafil Prices

As with any other product, the cost of Viagra will vary depending on where you get your prescription filled. The average price is around $60 for Viagra, and approximately $50 for Revatio, the branded version of sildenafil 20 mg.

On the one hand, you may be able to buy generic sildenafil 25mg for as low as less than $30 per pill. In fact, if you buy wholesale, you can get 10 tablets of generic sildenafil for less than $40.

You may also be able to buy 30 tablets of generic sildenafil for less than $60, which is even cheaper than the cost of just one Viagra pill. If you were to buy 20 tablets of Viagra, that would already cost you more than a thousand dollars.

Of course, the price of generic sildenafil would also differ depending on the manufacturer, where you’re buying it from, and the dosage. If you do have a prescription for sildenafil, make sure that you’re purchasing the drug only from a legitimate source such as accredited online pharmacies.

Cheap but Effective Alternatives to Sildenafil

Even though the cost of generic sildenafil is much lower than Viagra, there are still a lot of men who prefer to buy herb-based alternatives to Viagra instead. For one, you won’t need a prescription when you buy an herbal supplement. In addition, you also stand to gain many other sexual health benefits when you buy a sex enhancement supplement.

The thing about buying a male enhancement pill is that you just need to be sure that you’re buying from a legit source and that the supplement you’re buying is safe, genuine, and effective. You also need to check if the ingredients used in your sex enhancement supplement are actually proven to boost sexual performance.

Examples of herbal ingredients that are helpful in enhancing erectile function include Tribulus terrestris, Horny Goat Weed, and Tongkat Ali. If you were to do a quick research on these herbs, you would find that there have actually been numerous scientific studies about the pro-erectile effects of Tribulus terrestris, Horny Goat Weed, and Tongkat Ali.

You’ll also find that among these three herbs, Horny Goat Weed is the one that works in the same manner as sildenafil. That’s because the herb contains a bioactive component called icariin, which also has PDE5 inhibitory effects.

Aside from acting like Viagra, Horny Goat Weed has also been shown to have positive effects on male fertility. Studies indicate that the herb can help elevate your testosterone levels while increasing your sperm production and improving the quality of your sperm.

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The same is also true for Tribulus terrestris and Tongkat Ali. Both these herbs have been scientifically proven to enhance testicular production of testosterone. The positive effects of Tongkat Ali and Tribulus terrestris on your testicular functions can also result in increased sperm count, higher semen volume, and higher sperm motility.

Tribulus terrestris is also able to stimulate the increased synthesis of nitric oxide in your penile tissues. You actually need nitric oxide for your erection because it’s the compound that triggers the production and release of cyclic guanosine monophosphate or cGMP.

Plus, nitric oxide also makes your blood vessels dilate, which also increases penile blood flow. This means that Tribulus terrestris actually works in several ways to help improve your sexual performance. By increasing your testosterone levels, it also helps to improve your libido. And by increasing your nitric oxide levels, it helps you achieve harder erections.

Similar to Tribulus terrestris, Tongkat Ali also helps improve your sexual performance through various mechanisms of action. For one, the herb helps raise your testosterone production, which can also help increase your libido and improve your erectile function.

Plus, Tongkat Ali helps you fight stress, one of the most common causes of poor erectile function and low libido. On top of that, Tongkat Ali is able to increase your strength and energy, which can then result in increased sexual stamina.

Is Generic Sildenafil as Good as Viagra?

When you need a boost just to be able to get a hard-on, Viagra may seem like a miracle cure. It can’t be denied, however, that generic sildenafil is also becoming an attractive option for men with erectile dysfunction, considering the fact that it’s a lot cheaper than Viagra.

However, there are also questions about how well generic sildenafil compares with Viagra. If you want to know what you should consider before purchasing generic sildenafil instead of Viagra, continue reading.

What is Generic Sildenafil?

Outside the United States, the patents of Pfizer on Viagra expired back in 2012. Since then, other pharmaceutical companies started manufacturing generic sildenafil. In the United States, generic sildenafil was first made available in late 2017.

Currently, more than ten pharmaceutical companies, including Pfizer, are approved by the Food and Drugs Administration to manufacture generic sildenafil. Despite the fact that there are several different manufacturers, generic sildenafil is considered medically equivalent to its branded version because the main active ingredient, sildenafil citrate, is the same.

Because the active ingredient is basically the same substance, the mechanism of action of generic sildenafil is also the same as how Viagra works. Both inhibit the breakdown of cyclic guanosine monophosphate by cGMP-specific phosphodiesterase-5 enzymes. This is why Viagra and other erectile dysfunction medications are called PDE5 inhibitors.

However, the effects of generic sildenafil may not be exactly the same as Viagra. For instance, depending on the manufacturer, the time it takes before the drug takes effect may vary, as well as how long the effects last.

Generic sildenafil is also available in the same dosages as Viagra. Available dosages are 25 milligrams, 50 milligrams, and 100 milligrams, just like Viagra. There’s also generic sildenafil that’s only 20 milligrams, but that dosage is typically prescribed by doctors to patients who are suffering from PAH or pulmonary arterial hypertension.

While Viagra is available as a pill, generic sildenafil comes in three different forms. You can take it as an oral tablet, but it’s also available as an oral suspension. Your doctor may also administer sildenafil through injection.

Side Effects of Generic Sildenafil

Since the main active ingredient of generic sildenafil is the same as the one found in Viagra, the effects and side effects of both the branded and generic versions are also similar. There are actually several side effects associated with generic sildenafil.

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The more common adverse effects of generic sildenafil include respiratory infection, bronchitis, runny nose, sore throat, fever, sleep problems, headaches, upset stomach, nosebleeds, and flushing of the face.

There are also cases of more serious side effects such as shortness of breath, sudden vision or hearing loss, blurry vision, fainting, dizziness, and chest pains. If you happen to experience any of these symptoms, you should seek emergency medical assistance, as you may be suffering from dangerously low blood pressure.

Supplements for Erectile Dysfunction

Viagra and generic sildenafil are not readily accessible to everyone because they are prescription drugs. Herbal supplements for the enhancement of sexual performance, on the one hand, do not require any prescriptions so you can buy them anytime.

In fact, you can even buy sex enhancement supplements at grocery stores and even at gas stations. However, if you do buy male enhancement pills from retail channels, you just need to make sure that the supplement you’re buying is safe and legit.

In truth, there are numerous herbs that are effective in boosting male sexual performance. And many of these have been subjected to scientific studies and proven safe. For instance, Eurycoma longifolia Jack or Tongkat Ali has consistently been shown to help men with erectile dysfunction.

Other studies about Tongkat Ali also show that the herb is effective in increasing testosterone levels, as well as in improving sperm count and sperm quality. Other studies have also shown that Tongkat Ali can help improve male fertility and increase the chances of fertilization.

Aside from Tongkat Ali, Tribulus terrestris is another herb that has been proven effective in increasing testosterone production. Tribulus terrestris is also popular as a libido booster, as well as an erection enhancer. For men with erectile dysfunction, numerous studies have shown that treatment with Tribulus terrestris is effective in improving erection quality.

Horny Goat Weed is also effective in increasing both testosterone levels and sperm count, as well as in improving erectile function. What’s interesting about Horny Goat Weed is that its mechanism of action in improving erectile function is the same as that of sildenafil and Viagra.

Icariin, the bioactive component of Horny Goat Weed, acts as a PDE5 inhibitor, just like sildenafil. It’s also an antioxidant compound that has cardioprotective effects, and research indicates that icariin also has protective effects against cancer and other diseases.

Just like Horny Goat Weed, Tongkat Ali and Tribulus terrestris also contain antioxidant compounds which are responsible for their positive effects on erectile and testicular functions. Tongkat Ali, for instance, contains eurycomanone while Tribulus terrestris contains steroidal saponins.

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When you take a sex enhancement supplement, these are the herbal ingredients that you should be looking for. Tongkat Ali, Horny Goat Weed, and Tribulus terrestris are all scientifically proven to really help improve erectile function, as well as increase libido and testosterone levels.

Other male enhancement pills contain ingredients that don’t have much scientific backing. Instead of buying supplements like those, it’s best to purchase one that has ingredients that are proven safe for consumption, as well as effective in enhancing sexual performance.

Aside from Horny Goat Weed, Tribulus terrestris, and Tongkat Ali, Ashwagandha, maca, and fenugreek are also excellent male sexual performance boosters. Just like Tongkat Ali, maca and Ashwagandha are also ergogenic and adaptogenic agents.

These three herbs are effective in reducing anxiety symptoms and lowering stress levels. Plus, Tongkat Ali, maca, and Ashwagandha are also known to have strong aphrodisiac properties.

Maca has also been shown to help boost erectile function and improve sperm quality, as well as increase sperm production. When these three herbs are present in your sex enhancement pill, you can certainly expect to see huge improvements in your sexual performance.

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