It could be frustrating if you always have premature ejaculation. Instead of getting or giving satisfaction from sex with your partner, it might lead to disappointment. If you don’t want to mess things just because you cannot stay longer in bed, you should train your mind how.
Premature ejaculation is pretty common and is embarrassing and frustrating. This is usual for men in their 20s and 30s. But it was shown that 1 out of 3 men in all age groups experienced premature ejaculation.
Yes, you are not alone. But not let this become a hindrance for you and your partner’s happiness. If you want to stay longer in bed, you have to do something about it. Well, here are the things to train your mind to last longer in bed:
Have you ever heard about Kegel exercises? These exercises are useful for both men and women. These can help strengthen the muscles in your pelvic floor, which are responsible for supporting your small intestine, bladder, uterus, and rectum. These exercises can also help you control or prevent urinary incontinence.
Kegel exercises can make you last longer in bed as you will have better control over your ejaculation. And these exercises can be performed anywhere. This is scientifically proven. A study shows that 75 percent of men with erectile dysfunction have improved symptoms due to Kegels.
2. Limit thrusting
There’s more to sex than thrusting. You can do something new and exciting for your partner. For instance, you can press the tip of your penis in her clit. You can massage it in her G-spot. Or maybe, you can concentrate on her vaginal entrance rather than inserting your penis directly unto hers.
It cannot be denied but thrusting a lot unto hers can make you ejaculate quickly if you want to stay longer without compromising her pleasure, slow things down, and experiment how you can make her want you more.
3. Practice mindfulness
If you want to slow down ejaculation, you can practice breathing techniques and mindfulness. Mindfulness is when you give your complete attention to the sexual experience. This will allow you to connect your mind with yourself, your body, your partner, as well as your emotions.
Focus on the goal to give and take satisfaction from sex. If your partner wants longer sex, then give it to him or her. Mindfulness can be practiced even if you are not in the actual sexual intercourse. And the techniques can be learned from various apps. Practicing mindfulness could also encourage healthy eating and treat depression.
One of the most effective ways for you to last longer in bed is by edging. Edging is delaying your orgasm, such that if you are almost at the edge of your orgasm, you stop masturbating or any sexual activity, until you can control your excitement.
Edging can help your body and brain to control your orgasm, which will most likely allow you to last longer in bed. But it is advised to use lube or lotion if you are practicing the said technique to avoid chafing. Anyway, masturbating before sex is said to delay ejaculation.
If you are almost at your peak, you can stop orgasm by squeezing the head of your penis. You can use your forefinger and your thumb to apply pressure to your penis. This is also similar to edging wherein you try to stop your orgasm from lasting longer in bed.
This technique can decrease sexual tension by pushing the blood out of your penis. Remember that you get an erection if there is an increase in blood flow into your penis. If you can try to stop it for a while, then you can make sex with your partner a little longer.
6. Try something new
The usual is boring. If you want to get excited about sex, then maybe you can try different methods such as performing different sex positions, using sex toys or even grabbing condoms. If you already visualize sex according to your usual sessions, then it would not be as exciting as it should be.
If you try different positions, you and your partner will be distracted by the new sensations. This will probably make you uncover more positions out of curiosity. You can also use toys on hers or if you are a woman, let him use toys on you. This will make you both equally satisfied.
7. Ask an expert
If you already tried various techniques just to last longer in bed and still not effective, it is time for you to seek help from your doctor. Indeed, some of the techniques mentioned may not be easy for you, but an expert can help you to use it efficiently and effectively.
Sometimes, it is normal for you to experience premature ejaculation. But if it happens frequently, you should immediately find ways on how to remedy it. If you want your partner to experience longer sex sessions, then learn the mentioned techniques. But if it is not effective, better seek help from an expert.