During sexual intercourse, for most men, it’s just about ejaculating without given due consideration to pleasing the woman. Unfortunately, only a few
During sexual intercourse, for most men, it’s just about ejaculating without given due consideration to pleasing the woman. Unfortunately, only a few men understand this. You don’t just go looking for the hole, penetrating it and spilling. It’s much more than that. Enjoying orgasm in sex is supposed to be mutual and not one-sided. This is why you need to learn about foreplays. This article will help you. Let’s get started.
Get the room ready for sex
This is the first thing you have to do. Prepare your space. Let the aura of the room radiate your sexual expectations. Understand that it’s easy for the woman to get distracted and lose focus which is more reason why the aura of the room must have been well taken care of. If you invite her into the bedroom, take the time to clear the clutter, fix the sheets, pick up your laundry, and generally tidy up the living space.
It never hurts to set the stage either. Dim the lights, light a candle, turn on some music, or at least, turn off YouTube.
Take your time undressing
Don’t just rush to take off her clothes and yours too. This shows that you are desperate for sex. Rather, you should take things easy. Take your time as this is good for arousal and seduction. So, build momentum.
Yes, it can be tough to pace yourself when you want to get your eyes all over her body. She will appreciate the anticipation that comes along with removing one article of clothing at a time and the attention you give her body in the process.
Work on the clits and g-spots on the final note
Just like you don’t gulp down your desserts before dinner, so also, you mustn’t start from the peak of sexual excitement. Never start your foreplay from the clitoris or start by stimulating the g-spots. Understand that foreplay is for a warm-up and not the main thing. Slow it down, build anticipation
Talk about what she likes
Your goal is to arouse her, but if you’re struggling with pinning down what she likes, just ask. Most women appreciate straightforward questions; it shows her that you aim to please her the way she likes to be pleased, and that can be a turn-on all by itself. Don’t let your questions be juvenile. Put some thought into them, or use the fact that you need guidance as an opportunity to inject some dirty talk. For example:
- Show me where you want my hands.
- Do you like it when I rub your (insert sexy body part name) like this?
- Tell me what you want me to do with my mouth.
Even if your partner is a bit shy in the bedroom, the process of her showing you things she likes without having to directly answer can be incredibly hot for both of you
Allow her to take the lead when she wants to
You ain’t the commander, understand you are just a partner in the act like she also is. So, it’ okay if you let her take the lead. Allow her to drive you the way she wants to. Let it not be about you all the time.
Show her you like it when she’s the initiator by responding and encouraging her to take the lead. You may be surprised how turned on she gets when she is directing all the moves.
Kiss her right
Sensual foreplay is all about passionate touch that may not involve genitalia at all, and kissing is one of the oldest forms of sensual foreplay for women. How you kiss speaks volumes to a woman.
- If you’ve managed to get slobber all over her face, you’re doing it all wrong.
- If you know what her tonsils taste like, she’s probably going to feel violated.
- If you’ve chapped her lips from too much pecking, it’s a mistake.
- Kiss her gently but firmly, and don’t just focus on her mouth. Let your kisses stray to her neck, ears, and cheeks.
Buy Some New Toys
If you haven’t shopped for adult toys in a while, you might be a little surprised with all the choices. From vibrating rabbits for clitoral stimulation to pulsing rings that turn your penis into a vibrating tool of its own, the selection is impressive. Shopping together for toys you want to use on each other can get the anticipation flowing, and introducing new tools and new sensations can arouse both of you.